The Catholic Community of Northern Columbia County

As a young pastor years ago, I met with a middle-aged couple who had been divorced and civilly remarried. They were frustrated that an annulment had to precede a Church marriage. Sympathizing with their plight, I promised to walk with them along their journey. Once as we sat in my office, the man said to me, “Why is the Church so difficult on marriage?” I replied, “Actually, Jesus’ teaching is what’s difficult.” He furrowed his brow and asked what I meant.  

We opened the Bible and together read today’s gospel passage from Mark 10:12 in which Jesus says, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another, commits adultery with her…” My two friends sat in silent astonishment. Surely Jesus understands the complexities of human life and sexual love. The words hung thick and heavy in the air. How could the merciful Lord be so seemingly unrealistic in his expectations, especially with so much divorce and remarriage in our world?

I didn’t know what to say. So, we kept reading. Next, Jesus says, “Let the children come to me.” The innocence of children allows them to receive and give love, to trust unconditionally, to believe in love that endures. Most children aren’t yet jaded by statistics, broken hearts, or dysfunctional relationships. Children remind us of the world to come. The couple and I began to talk about child-like trust in Jesus and his teaching, and we continued to move forward. When it comes to the Church’s demanding teaching on marriage, it’s best to approach it as trusting children, whatever situations in which we find ourselves.   — Father John Muir ©LPi 

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Es bonito saber que una pareja que conocemos va a casarse. Son dos personas que se conocen y se entregan por amor. Ellos, al recibir el Sacramento del Matrimonio, deciden tener a Dios en sus vidas y formar una familia. Se sienten llamados a compartir el resto de sus vidas hasta que la muerte los separe. “Por eso dejará el hombre a su padre y a su madre para unirse con su esposa, y serán los dos una sola carne” (Marcos 10:7-8).  

El Catecismo de la Iglesia Católica en el numeral 1601 nos dice lo siguiente: “La alianza matrimonial, por la que el varón y la mujer constituyen entre sí un consorcio de toda la vida, ordenado por su misma índole natural al bien de los cónyuges y a la generación y educación de la prole, fue elevada por Cristo Nuestro Señor a la dignidad de sacramento entre los bautizados”. Y continúa diciendo en el numeral 1662: “El matrimonio se funda en el consentimiento de los contrayentes, es decir, en la voluntad de darse mutua y definitivamente con el fin de vivir una alianza de amor fiel y fecundo. Pidamos siempre por los matrimonios porque es proyecto de Dios, que quiere que lo que él unió, no lo separemos. El Papa Francisco recomienda tres palabras a los matrimonios: “Por favor, gracias y perdón”.  ¿Qué opinas de esto? ¿Estás dispuesto(a) a luchar por tu matrimonio? ©LPi